Social media and dating apps have completely ruined love, trust, and modern society. This is the way how it is done.
Real love is accepting someone for being a human being. They don’t have to change who they are or be what you want them to be; you just have to love them, and you want them in your life. There are no conditions that have to be met in order to keep them a part of being loved.
This is something that you are not taught in school. Of course, you are not; they don’t want you to experience real love.
Life teaches you over multiple failed relationships, where you realize that a part of the reason why your past relationships did not work out was because of you also
Might have been them but your ego had a hard time with taking accountability with any of your faults or you failed to realize any of your faults and same with them the ego is the relationship killer, apart from cheating. Cheating occurred because the ego self had to feel justified even tho cheating is always unnecessary, realistically.
Now here’s where social media and dating apps ruin it completely
If two people fall in love during those fall conditions, conditions didn’t exist, and they started to become reinforced throughout the relationship after the honeymoon phase.
Example, he doesn’t take me out to eat, we don’t really go anywhere, she doesn’t really have any goals, she is a bum etc.
Now you see a new incoming notification from Hinge or Bumble, and you start messaging other people. You have now cheated on your partner just like that.
You have averted your attention to the possibility of what it would be like to be with somebody else in your heart, you have already cheated without the physical act even meeting that person.
You have discounted the current person you are with in your mind, and now they are no longer as significant as they were, thanks to Instagram, Tinder, or any of these platforms.
They have tricked your brain into devaluing the flesh and blood human being that you fell in love with a few days ago a month ago a year ago, whatever. This constant play on people’s dopamine and oxytocin is a mean cycle that will never end unless social media and dating apps are obsolete.
Dating apps rewire your brain to see people as disposable and non human like. On the other side of the screen is a human being with feelings just like you, but you don’t feel that because your emotional circuitry is being turned off by the LED light that is flashing one hundred to one hundred twenty thousand times per second from your phone. The eyes are connected to the brain.
Dating apps keep you in a perpetual loop where you will never find the best option. Dating apps train your mind to create a mental pattern to be hyperaware of people and hypergamous too.
Every time you start talking to somebody new, and it doesn’t work out, your brain starts to lose hope, and your pair-bonding gets destroyed. This negative pattern that is created becomes very difficult to reverse because the emotion of negativity is stronger than the emotion of positivity.
Do yourself a favor and delete your dating apps and social media; your brain will start to rewire over the months in a healthier way than it was before.
Big tech will no longer be able to use you for your constant attention.
